Overcoming mental and emotional challenges through perspective, clarity and mindset.
Reach a state of balance through personalised support
Hello, I'm Christian Chalfont
As an Integrative Counsellor, I provide a service that combines several therapeutic practices, all aimed towards helping you feel whole again.
In recent years, my work has focused strongly on addiction, trauma and issues around sexuality. I also have a particular focus on identity, self-worth and boundaries. We are what we think and what we think governs how we feel - our beliefs shape our reality.
My role is to help you process and integrate whatever it is you are struggling with, supporting you on your journey to improved mental and emotional wellbeing.
How it works
1. Discovery Call
2. Contracting
3. Starting Therapy
4. Your Commitment
By making the unconscious conscious, we can actively begin to take charge of our lives, enabling positive, effective and lasting change.
What I can help with
Imposter syndrome
Imposter syndrome
Imposter Syndrome is a psychological pattern where individuals doubt their achievements and fear of being exposed as a fraud, despite evidence of competence. They attribute success to external factors rather than their own abilities and constantly seek validation. It presents as self-doubt, anxiety, and feelings of inadequacy.
People affected by imposter syndrome may become perfectionists, overwork or avoid challenges to maintain their facade of competence. It affects self-confidence, increases stress and anxiety, whilst hindering personal and professional growth. Recognizing and addressing imposter syndrome is vital for individuals to embrace their achievements and recognize their true capabilities.
Stress
Stress
Stress is the body's response to demanding or challenging situations, triggering a "fight-or-flight" reaction. It is a natural mechanism that prepares individuals to cope with threats. Stress can present as physical symptoms, such as increased heart rate, tension and fatigue, as well as emotional symptoms such as irritability, anxiety and mood swings.
Prolonged or chronic stress can negatively affect people's mental and physical health, leading to insomnia, weakened immune systems and various health issues. It may also impact cognitive functions, memory and decision-making abilities.
Anxiety
Anxiety
Anxiety is a natural response to stress and perceived threats, characterized by excessive worry, fear and apprehension. It can manifest as physical symptoms, including rapid heartbeat, sweating and trembling, along with psychological symptoms like restlessness, difficulty concentrating and irritability. Anxiety disorders involve chronic and excessive worry, significantly impacting daily life and functioning.
Anxiety also affects people emotionally, leading to feelings of dread and unease. It may also cause avoidance of triggering situations and social withdrawal. Physically, anxiety can lead to muscle tension, headaches and gastrointestinal issues. Chronic anxiety can disrupt sleep patterns and impair cognitive functions.
Depression
Depression
Depression is a mood disorder characterized by persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness and loss of interest in activities. It can present as a range of symptoms, including fatigue, changes in appetite or weight, sleep disturbances and a lack of concentration.
Individuals with depression may experience low self-esteem, guilt and thoughts of self-harm. It affects people emotionally, leading to a loss of pleasure in previously enjoyable activities and social withdrawal. Physically, depression can cause aches, pains and digestive issues. It can severely impact daily functioning, relationships and overall quality of life.
Identity
Identity
Identity issues that people seek counselling for involve struggles in understanding, defining or accepting their sense of self. This can include confusion or conflict related to aspects like gender identity, sexual orientation, cultural background or personal values and beliefs. Individuals may seek counselling to explore their identity, reconcile conflicting feelings or to gain self-acceptance.
These issues can cause emotional distress, anxiety or a sense of not belonging. Counselling provides a supportive environment for individuals to explore their identity, gain clarity and develop a positive sense of self, promoting personal growth and a more authentic and fulfilling life.
Self-worth
Self-worth
Self-worth issues people seek counselling for involve feelings of low self-esteem, self-doubt and a negative self-image. Individuals may struggle with a lack of confidence, self-critical thoughts, or difficulty recognizing their own value and worth.
These issues can impact various areas of life, including relationships, work and personal well-being. Counselling provides a safe and non-judgmental space for individuals to explore the root causes of their self-worth issues, challenge negative beliefs and to develop healthier self-esteem; cultivating a more positive self-perception, enhanced self-compassion and to build a stronger foundation of self-worth and self-acceptance.
Relationships
Relationships
Relationship issues can include communication problems, frequent arguments, lack of intimacy, trust issues, infidelity or difficulties in adjusting to life changes like marriage or parenthood.
Individual therapy may be sought to explore personal patterns or past experiences affecting the relationship. Counselling provides a safe and supportive space for individuals to work through challenges, foster understanding and develop healthier ways of relating, ultimately strengthening their relationships.
Sexuality
Sexuality
Individuals may seek counselling to explore and better understand their sexual orientation or gender identity, reconcile feelings of confusion or internalized stigma to find acceptance and self-identity.
Sexuality counselling may also address issues such as sexual dysfunctions, difficulties in intimate relationships or the impact of past traumas on sexual well-being. Counselling provides a confidential and non-judgmental space for individuals to discuss their feelings, emotions and concerns related to their sexuality, empowering them to embrace and affirm their authentic selves and foster a healthier and more satisfying sexual and emotional life.
Loss
Loss
Loss refers to any event or experience that involves the deprivation or absence of something significant in a person's life, aside from death. It can encompass various forms, such as the loss of a job, a relationship, a pet, health or a treasured possession.
Loss presents through feelings of sadness, grief or emptiness; as well as changes in behaviour and mood. Individuals may experience difficulty adjusting to the change, leading to anxiety or depression. Coping with loss involves navigating the emotions and adjustments required to adapt to the new reality. The impact of loss varies for each person and depends on their coping mechanisms, support system and the significance of what was lost.
Addiction
Addiction
Addiction is a chronic and compulsive dependence on a substance or behaviour, despite negative consequences. It can involve substances like drugs or alcohol, as well as behaviours like sex, porn, gambling, gaming or social media.
Addiction presents through a strong craving for the substance or behaviour, loss of control over its use and withdrawal symptoms when not engaging in it. It affects people mentally, emotionally and physically, leading to health problems, strained relationships and financial difficulties.
Trauma
Trauma
Trauma refers to the emotional and psychological response to a distressing event or series of events that overwhelm an individual's ability to cope. It can result from experiences like accidents, violence, abuse or natural disasters. Trauma presents through symptoms like intrusive memories, flashbacks, nightmares, emotional numbness, avoidance of triggers and heightened anxiety or hypervigilance.
Individuals affected by trauma may experience difficulty in daily functioning, have challenges in relationships and suffer from sleep disturbances. It can have profound and long-term effects on mental, emotional and physical well-being, leading to conditions like Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), anxiety, and depression.
PTSD
PTSD
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a mental health condition that can develop after experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event. It presents as a range of distressing symptoms, including intrusive memories or flashbacks of the trauma, nightmares, avoidance of reminders of the event and hyperarousal, leading to an exaggerated startle response and difficulty concentrating.
Individuals with PTSD may feel emotional numbness, guilt and a sense of detachment. It affects people mentally and emotionally, leading to feelings of fear, anxiety and irritability. Physically, it can cause sleep disturbances, headaches and gastrointestinal issues. PTSD can significantly impair daily functioning, relationships and overall well-being.